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Discover the Secrets of Getting What You Want

March 4th, 2015 by Annette

Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images

Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images

When given an opportunity to hide information about their objectives, most politicians choose to do so. Senator Kirsten Gillibrand chooses transparency. She is the only Congressperson in history to repeatedly publish her official schedule and her full financial records. She posts these things on her own website and anywhere else she is allowed. She does so because of a promise she made while campaigning. She is today’s #wonderwomanwednesday because of her unique commitment to transparency.

There are so many good reasons why transparency would be a vital part of speaking without fear – to name a few:

  • Transparency is a part of specifying what you want. When you speak specifically about what you want, you give others a chance to give it to you.
  • Transparency requires you to commit to an outcome, a course of action, or a need.
  • Keeping transparent in your interactions frees you from communications grounded in anxiety because all parties know what’s at stake and the desired outcomes.
  • Transparency requires integrity – others can see your actions, your intentions, and your methods.

Building trust can bridge the gap that results from misunderstandings. And having a reputation for speaking with commitment and speaking without fear can help others build trust in you. Your words are both generative and creative – by speaking, you create your mindsets, your opportunities, your relationships, your life.

There is one more benefit to transparency: connecting with others and removing all filters or barriers allows you to truly shine.

Over to you – reply to these questions in the comments below:

  1. If you’re feeling the urge to be vague in your request, what are you hoping to hide?
  2. What would be the benefit to committing to transparency in your request?
  3. What shift in your mindset will help you commit to transparency?

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PS – I’ve prepared a place for you to practice your commitment to transparency.  My Atlanta Lunch+Learn is this week – there’s still time to join me and a host of other accomplished, talented women who want to get clear and get specific about what they want. Join us by registering here.

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