Yeah, I just made her name a complete sentence. The point of these #wonderwomanwednesday features is to highlight women who can be noun and verb all in one. And Theron definitely fits that description.
You heard about the Sony hack, right? And you heard about some of the things coming out as a result? One of my favorites, by far, is that Charlize Theron, South African actor extraordinaire, negotiated a salary of 10 million dollars for a movie where her male co-star would earn that much.
And how did Theron manage such a negotiation?
She decided to ask and then, she asked.
And you can, too.
Here’s how: decide to ask, and then ask.
Wait, but didn’t Theron have a team of lawyers and an agent and drop-dead beauty and a reputation for doing great work and (insert anything that she has that you’re-sure-you-don’t-have here.) Yes. She did. However, you have assets, too. Assets you’re giving up or ignoring because of a tiny voice.
You know the internal conversation. The one where you want to ask for something that you think is really big. And then that tiny, internal voice hits you with “What if they say no when you ask?” or, “What will they think of you if you ask for something so big?”
Let’s get really honest about that voice – and those questions. Just what do those questions mean? And why is that voice trying to prevent you from asking?
That voice is the voice of fear and while it seems like the voice is ‘protecting’ you, it’s not. It’s preventing you from getting what you really want. And don’t those questions boil down to this: what if you lose power or social standing or respect because you asked?
Let’s just stop this whole line of thinking.
Right here. Right now.
What if, instead of worrying about social standing or ‘no’ or prevention, you worried about what it would do to the person you’re asking? You want to avoid hearing no, so you don’t ask, and that means that you’re not giving that person a chance to say yes.
Instead of giving them a chance to choose how they’ll answer, you’re blaming them for an answer they haven’t yet given! By planning for the no, you’re preventing them from even participating in the conversation.
What if you gave them a chance to say YES? What if you planned for success? What if you ignored that internal voice? What if you made $10 million just because you asked?
Asking is giving. Give someone the opportunity to say yes. They just might surprise you and you might wind up with $10 million.
Your turn – reply in the comments and tell me:
1) When was the last time you asked for something so big, it seemed crazy?
2) What is the biggest ask you can imagine right now?
3) What can you do to give someone a chance to say yes?
PS – I’m guessing you thought this was going to be a post about all the things you couldn’t possibly do to ask for $10 million. Instead, it’s a post about something that seems small – easy, even. It really is that simple. If you want more, though, I’ve got tons of little tips and simple tricks to show you how to own your worth. There’s still time to register and join me at one of my Lunch+Learn Workshops in Atlanta or New York this week. (Click the city name to learn more about that event.) I’d love to see you there!
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