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The Art and Science of Making Irresistible Requests

Wonder Woman Profile: Frida Kahlo, The Possibility of Pain
June 17th, 2015 by Annette

I have found great solace in studying the lives of women who have boldly transformed their pain into a possibility that touches the world. These stories give me the strength to continue moving forward even when it seems like everything and everyone is pushing against me. I know that the more stories we hear of amazing women […]

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Wonder Woman Harper Lee
April 22nd, 2015 by Annette

“People generally see what they look for and hear what they listen for.” –Harper Lee Her book, To Kill a Mockingbird , stands as one of the most read and most purchased of the 20th century. The character Atticus Finch has influenced a dozen or more other studies, documentaries, and racial equality campaigns. And little Scout, […]

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Wonder Woman Reneé Brown
April 15th, 2015 by Annette

Today’s Wonder Woman Wednesday is one of the most confident and deeply powerful people I’ve met. She is the Chief of Basketball Operations and Player Relations for the WNBA, which will hold the WNBA Draft 2015 on April 16th. I caught up with her for a few moments to chat about the draft, what inspires […]

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Asking for Something so Big, It Seems Crazy
April 13th, 2015 by Annette

I used to ask for things that were so big, they seemed crazy. Now, I do it differently. Here’s why: In my sphere, I get a lot of noise about why people limit themselves in this way. They don’t ask for what they actually want, they ask for what they think they can get. I hear […]

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How to Recover Easily from a Mistake
April 10th, 2015 by Annette

“When you hit a wrong note, it’s the next note that makes it good or bad.” Miles Davis So you’ve made a mistake in an important meeting- one that looks big right now. You’re feeling… what is it? Confused? Rattled. (I am feeling flushed.) Stunned. (I can’t believe I caved like that!”) Puzzled. (“I was […]

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How to Confidently Say No
April 8th, 2015 by Annette

What about when people make requests of you? Must you say ‘yes’ to requests in order to hear a ‘yes’ in return? When today’s Wonder Woman, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, was in the midst of her confirmation hearings for her Supreme Court nomination, she refused to answer questions about her stance on heated issues such as […]

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Discover the Secrets of Getting What You Want
March 4th, 2015 by Annette

When given an opportunity to hide information about their objectives, most politicians choose to do so. Senator Kirsten Gillibrand chooses transparency. She is the only Congressperson in history to repeatedly publish her official schedule and her full financial records. She posts these things on her own website and anywhere else she is allowed. She does […]

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How to Ask For a Raise
March 2nd, 2015 by Annette

This is the number one question that I get asked: “Sure, I know I need to ask for a raise, but how?” or “I know, I know, I need to raise my fees. I just don’t know how to ask.” And what is this ‘how’ we’re seeking? It’s the words. You want to know what […]

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CATEGORY: #mindsetmonday


How to Make 10 Million Dollars in One Deal
February 25th, 2015 by Annette

Charlize Theron. Yeah, I just made her name a complete sentence. The point of these #wonderwomanwednesday features is to highlight women who can be noun and verb all in one. And Theron definitely fits that description. You heard about the Sony hack, right? And you heard about some of the things coming out as a […]

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Feeling Defeated? You’re Not Alone
February 23rd, 2015 by Annette

Does this sound like you? You have to make ends meet and you don’t feel like you can charge your clients a higher rate. So, you work more hours to bridge the gap – you have to work nearly one and half times the hours just to keep your business from bankrupting you. Your family […]

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Quick Guide: Speaking Without Fear
February 18th, 2015 by Annette

On top of being today’s #wonderwomanwednesday, Nina Simone is a legend. Her musical ability, vocal talent, activism, and down-to-earth wisdom made her approachable in a way that most celebrities of her day could only dream about. Her admiration of composers like Johann Sebastian Bach led her to seek a career as a classical pianist. After […]

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Uh-oh, Are You Leaving Money on the Table?
February 16th, 2015 by Annette

Imagine this: you’re watching that kickass underdog movie. The one where the team has been beaten up pretty bad, but in the last few seconds, they manage to put their heart into it, band together, score, and finally, finally WIN! Can you see it? The moment where the players are celebrating? Their faces, so full […]

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Unworthy to Unlimited in 3 Simple Steps
February 10th, 2015 by Annette

Do you remember the first time you said to yourself, “I’m not good enough?” I recently witnessed my 15 year old son ask this same question when given the opportunity to join his first motorcycle race. It’s a right of passage. We all go through it. This mindset seems to be universal. But to what […]

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The True, Hidden Power of Uncertainty
February 9th, 2015 by Annette

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about uncertainty. How this one aspect of human existence can do so much good – or all sorts of damage. Uncertainty can cause you to question not only your circumstances, it can masquerade as a reason to question yourself. Feeling uncertain about the future can make you want to […]

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One Little Word Is All It Takes…
February 2nd, 2015 by Annette

There’s this word. And every time I hear it, I get all focused and clear and tingly and imaginative. The word makes me think of so many opportunities and possibilities. It’s a word that means a lot to me. I think it can mean a lot for you, too. The word is: pivotal. Not what […]

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How to Speak With Intent
January 28th, 2015 by Annette

Arianna Huffington speaks with intent. She is this week’s #wonderwomanwednesday. In her career, she’s taken many opportunities to create conversations and deliver irresistible requests. She credits her Greek mother with providing a platform for success, including an education at Cambridge. Her books, articles, and presentations focus on topics ranging from controversial to tame, and sparking […]

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Shake Things Up Using This Tiny Transformation
January 21st, 2015 by Annette

She’s not known for her requests. She’s actually known for playing a little girl and a witch. Recently, though, her very public request is everywhere. She asked for others to join her in creating more equality. She asked for awareness. She asked for partnerships between warring factions. And she asked for bold changes in a […]

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Bet On Yourself: Can’t Lose
January 14th, 2015 by Annette

Alexandra Franzen is a Communication Expert. Her testimonial page reads like a who’s who of thought leaders. She is the author of three books, including a bestselling journal, an illustrated book on the power of gratitude, and a love story called Milk & Honey. She’s been profiled in six other books, including a bestselling guide to launching a creative business. She also […]

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Aaand, ACTION!
January 12th, 2015 by Annette

Some say, it’s the thought that counts. I say, it’s the words that go with that thought. Your words. Your words have power. Influence. They are generative. Creative. Your words. Every Monday, I’ve been posting some of my words. I learned a long time ago to bet on myself by using my words. I learned […]

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What No One Told Her About MLK
January 7th, 2015 by Annette

Sometimes, wonder women make incredibly irresistible requests of others. Today’s wonder woman had a request made of her by someone else. That someone? Martin Luther King, Jr. Nichols, who was cast as Lieutenant Uhura on the TV Series Star Trek, was fearful about where the role would take her career. At a point when she was considering […]

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3 Amazing Mindset Shifts to Try Right Now
January 5th, 2015 by Annette

(click in the whitespace below to see the video) Bet on yourself in 2015 by doing three things:  1) Identify what there is to learn from your successes and challenges of 2014. 2) Identify how are you going to learn this? Maybe you want to take a seminar or hire a coach, maybe you need […]

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Power Up Your 2015 Using… Vulnerability?!?
December 31st, 2014 by Annette

Brené Brown is a personal hero of mine. I have been looking forward to this #wonderwomanwednesday for weeks. I wanted to save her special message and the powerful impact of her words until today, the last day of 2014. The words ‘shame’, ‘isolation’, and ‘perfectionism’ bring with them a certain power over our souls. Brené asks those […]

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It’s all yours – and it’s gonna be HUGE!
December 29th, 2014 by Annette

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The Easy Way to Make It All Merrier
December 25th, 2014 by Annette

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At 12 years old, she’d mastered this skill. Have you?
December 24th, 2014 by Annette

She was only 12 years old when she posted on a blog. Her simple request? She asked for education for herself. And she didn’t stop there. She also asked for education for all girls and women. And she asked for the world to look at difficult problems. She knew her request would be met with […]

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3 Steps to Regain Your Presence During the Holidays
December 22nd, 2014 by Annette

(Click the blank space below to see the video) As much as we love the holidays, they’re not always easy.  Meaningful traditions, hope filled expectations and unexamined standards are prime conditions for wasting the greatest gift you have to offer – your PRESENCE. Imagine this: you made it home for the holidays, the food looks divine, the […]

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Standing for Something to Say
December 17th, 2014 by Annette

Every time I think about all the problems in the world, I can’t help but think that so many problems could be solved with committed speaking. And when I think of committed speaking, I am inevitably reminded of Senator Wendy Davis. Senator Davis serves in Texas, a deeply divided area of a deeply divided country. In 2013, Senator […]

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Move Forward By Looking Back
December 15th, 2014 by Annette

  Oh Shit! What just happened? It’s almost the end of the year. Did you feel your head spinning with possibility? Or was your head just spinning? Ending the year without reaching your goals can be alarming, but there’s a specific way you can plan for a bold comeback in 2015. Pause. Make a conscious […]

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Authentic, Bold, Transformative
December 10th, 2014 by Annette

Today’s Wonder Woman Wednesday feature is Angela Ahrendts. Ahrendts is well versed in making irresistible requests. She managed blockbuster companies Donna Karan, Liz Claiborne, and Burberry before taking over as Apple’s Senior Vice President of Retail and Online Stores. She attributes the successes in her stunning career to her midwestern values and childhood experience as […]

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Steps to Happiness
December 8th, 2014 by Annette

The greatest gift that you could ever give to those you love is your own happiness. Happiness is a state of Being. You can never lose it, and it cannot slip away from you. It is independent of what you have, who you know, and even all the circumstances surrounding your life in this very […]

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Yes You Can, Can
December 4th, 2014 by Annette

Speak your truth. Ask. And feel light on your toes. When you realize your words can move the world — Your request can crack a smile,  or drop a tear  — even better yet, it can instill hope and acts of courage in another. When you discover there is no end to the power and […]

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Wonder Woman Wednesday – Kari Spieler
December 3rd, 2014 by Annette

I still remember the day I was driving in my car and had the idea: Every revolution needs an anthem. Perhaps it’s because music is such a mighty force. Nothing evokes and influences like music. I immediately knew who to call.  Picturing the shaggy 70s van packed with gear and three bearded guys all listening […]

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Your Words
December 1st, 2014 by Annette

You don’t need to “do one thing every day that scares you.” Instead, you can SAY one thing every day that inspires you, and those around you to give you their best. Join the discussion by commenting with your answers: Where are you today in life? Who guided you and helped get you there? What […]

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Wonder Woman Manifesto
November 27th, 2014 by Annette

When you feel too far removed from yourSELF to be filled with admiration, amazement, and marvel at the untold power of your words,  we can help each other remember, life’s best experienced with a sense of curiosity and wonder. This series is for you. Join us as we celebrate the wonder of women everywhere. WISE, […]

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Asking is Giving
November 24th, 2014 by Annette

Think about how good you feel when someone  confides in you enough to ask you for your advice. Now, compare that to how you feel and the level of trust that’s available when asking others for advice. Be generous in your perceptions of others. Give others the chance to shine -and ask. Join the conversation […]

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The Mistake We Make Over and Over Again. Own Bossy.
March 13th, 2014 by Annette

I just watched Sheryl Sandberg, Beyonce, and some other women I truly admire, who recorded a video message to ban the word BOSSY. The video is the product of a collaboration between Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In and Girl Scouts that aims to encourage girls to seek leadership roles. While I have so much respect for these […]

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An Extraordinary Life Comes from an Extraordinary State of Mind
February 6th, 2014 by Annette

A couple of weeks ago, as I was leaving the commemorative service for Dr. Martin Luther King, I wondered; how did he sustain his vision when there are roadblocks, interruptions, diversions, and wounds that make you feel wrung out like a dishrag? Life it turns out, immediately gave me an opportunity to find the answer.  […]

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The Research Reveals Your Key to Business Success
October 15th, 2013 by Annette

  Annette: Okay, so I’m here with Alex Ytuarte of American Express, talking  about the State of Women-Owned Business Report that was commissioned in March of 2012, and the evolutionary actions and programs that have been created since that report to prepare women and support them in reaching new heights. So, Alex, thanks for being here. […]

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HERE’S WHAT YOU REALLY GET
September 17th, 2013 by Annette

(when you’re in the habit of asking for it) Confidence, freedom, power. You’re stepping out and speaking up–even when there are no ready answers. Sometimes you just know. You don’t need evidence or proof or to figure it all out. No more props. That great, big, lovable dream is enough to keep you moving. Every day […]

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My Response to September’s HBR Cover
September 13th, 2013 by Annette

I was ecstatic to see the three archetypes of our program listed on the cover of this month’s HBR. (Spoiler Alert: We had nothing to do with that.)  Where we part ways is on the assertion that there is something to overcome. What if there is nothing, to overcome? What if women appreciated and owned the unique value […]

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Let’s talk about what it REALLY takes to stop settling.
September 9th, 2013 by Annette

I’ve dreamed of living in Atlanta again since I left twelve years ago. Finally, this June, I made my way back home. What took me so long? The voice of my soul was inconvenient. It was in direct conflict with the structures that existed in my daily life. (A’hem) I wasn’t willing to do the […]

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CATEGORY: Inspirational


The Hardest, Scariest Thing I Have EVER Said
May 15th, 2013 by Annette

Sometimes allowing someone to say “no” is the last thing you want to do.   The scariest choice I’ve ever given someone, was not to just anyone. It was to my son Nicolas. I adore Nicolas. I adore being a mom. It’s the only thing I have been certain of… as far back as I […]

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Ask A CEO
May 11th, 2013 by Annette

Breaking in to big companies. It’s the fastest, easiest way to increase your profits, make a difference in lots of people’s lives, and grow your business beyond just the solo-entrepreneur or independent consultant model. So how do you do it? The obvious answer would seem to be: ask for the big opportunity.   As someone who’s […]

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When the Validation You Want, Is Something You “Can’t Have”
April 25th, 2013 by Annette

This one requires some real thinking. Ready? You will never be great until your OWN thoughts make you great. It’s easy to seek respect, validation and admiration outside of you.  We’ve all done it. What is not so easy?  To think of going inside to find those experiences. Everything you need is already within. The […]

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Resolve Any Complaint – Perfection Not Needed
April 8th, 2013 by Annette

I woke up a bit sulky on Sunday.  It happens from time to time.  My itty, bitty, shitty committee was at it again. Complaining. Whining. Needing. Blaming. It was just one of those moments where I couldn’t distinguish the committee’s voice from my own. Luckily, I know my golden rule,  ANY complaint can be transformed […]

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Pearls of Wisdom
April 2nd, 2013 by Annette

 

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You Don’t Have To Wait
March 9th, 2013 by Annette

The power of asking for big things from big people is something I believe in so, so much. You don’t need to wait for confidence. You don’t need to wait until you have the same level of experience or status in this market. You don’t need to wait until you’re bigger, Until you’re cooler, Until […]

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Listening For A Miracle
March 2nd, 2013 by Annette

Listening for a miracle is quite different than just listening. It’s listening with heart and soul. It’s listening with the future in mind. Discover. Who. You. Are. Discover. Who. They. Are.     Honor the huge, vast, possibility that exists in this very moment. Right here. Right now.  

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Thank You
November 21st, 2012 by Annette

Thank you to Africa for the gift of my husband and the wondrous mystery you are. Thank you to the stars for smiling at my tears. Thank you to the ocean for always soothing my soul. Thank you dear sons for the magic of your laughter and the magnetic pull of my soul. Forever stretching […]

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Does This One Word Stop You in Your Tracks?
October 23rd, 2012 by Annette

Be honest. What do you hear when someone says, “no” after you’ve asked them for something? Does it stop you in your tracks? What do you tell yourself the other person really means when they say no? Here’s what some people hear: “You’re not good enough.” “I don’t like you.” “I’ll never want to work […]

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3 Reasons Why You Should Ask For What You Want
October 3rd, 2012 by Annette

So many women tell me that when they ask for what they want, they feel they’re being selfish. Often, I hear women say they should just be happy with what they already have or they should feel lucky enough to be where they’re at. If asking for what you want makes you feel uncomfortable, greedy, […]

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Take Your Soul Seriously. Promote Your Self.
August 15th, 2012 by Annette

Examine your path and your goals for a moment. Ok, now examine the extraordinary amount of time and effort you put into getting ahead in your business. Are you struggling? If so, why? (Insert your reasons here.) Okay. I understand. Now put those aside for a moment. If I say to you, go promote your […]

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Become The Great Communicator You’ve Always Wanted To Be!
August 2nd, 2012 by Annette

You know a great public speaker when you see one. She seems to possess qualities of confidence, charisma, eloquence and inspiration that you may feel that you lack. But did you know the ability to speak well in front of others is a skill, not a gift? That means you can learn how to do […]

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Keep Others from Pushing Your Boundaries
July 22nd, 2012 by Annette

One of the biggest differences between how men and women behave in business is in the area of boundaries. Experience has shown me that guys (and you would be surprised how many of my clients are men!) spend a fraction of the time that women do worrying about the cascade of boundary issues that can […]

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Passion Always Trumps Strategy
July 18th, 2012 by Annette

Friends – PASSION ALWAYS TRUMPS STRATEGY. If you don’t believe me, ask Stacey Ferreira, age 19 and rocking her business with the support of investors of the heavyweight kind. Last year, Stacey Ferreira saw the following tweet by Richard Branson: Enjoy intimate cocktails with me in Miami on June 15th – $2,000 to charity. For […]

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Yours For The Asking
July 4th, 2012 by Annette

You know I’m a big believer in “Ask and You Shall Receive.” Time and again, I’ve humbly found this to be true. What is also true is, finding the right answers always starts with asking the right questions. Lately, I’ve looked at a different type of ‘ask’. Perhaps, the most important one of all. Some […]

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Ask a CEO: How Can I Make a Totally Unreasonable Request (When I’m Sure They’ll Resent Me for Even Asking)?
June 24th, 2012 by Annette

They’re not feeling it. You haven’t even asked yet, but you can tell they’re not going to like this. And you really need to make this request. Whether they’re your staff, family, partners, or business heroes, it would mean everything to have their support. It seems you have three options. Option 1: You can stop […]

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How do you know when you have silently given up? Do you act? Do you speak up?
June 20th, 2012 by Annette

Sometimes it’s frustrating. You know you have so much to give and yet, you aren’t satisfied with what you have to show for it. You know you see a better way of doing things. You feel like you’re always pushing, striving to reach the finish line that keeps moving further away. Greatness resides where you […]

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Why people say “no” when you ask nicely (& how you can get to “YES!”)
June 6th, 2012 by Annette

You asked nicely, and they still said no. Or, worse, nothing happened at all. Why do people say no? Does this mean you should just give up and stop asking? What if you knew you had a pretty good chance of getting to “yes”–without being pushy or bossy? That’s what this checklist is for. Before […]

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Ask a CEO: How Can I Break In to Big Companies (When No One Answers the Phone)?
May 20th, 2012 by Annette

Breaking in to big companies. It’s the fastest, easiest way to increase your profits, make a difference in lots of people’s lives, and grow your business beyond just the solo-entrepreneur or independent consultant model. So how do you do it? The obvious answer would seem to be: ask for the big opportunity. As someone who’s […]

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